Marriage is Hard

September 1, 2020 | Written by Caitlin Garrett

Marriage is actually the hardest thing I’ve done in my life.

It is some days beautiful and some days crushing; magical, hilarious, painful, full of comfort, stretching and sanctifying.

If you have been married for any length of time, I don’t have to tell you that it is HARD. Marriage is an amazing gift from God, but because it’s between two broken people, it also takes nurturing, intention and some grit.

Add in one global pandemic and probably months of extended time together and you may be looking for some practical help right now.

The Marriage Ministry at Pulpit Rock has a fall season full of ways to strengthen and refresh your marriage. From couple to couple marriage coaching, a 10-week class on Becoming One, all the way to partnering with local marriage counselor Dr. Pauline Dillard to offer two Marriage Intensive Weekends.

Jason and I have been married for over 20 years and continually are finding ways to strengthen our relationship.

We have taken part in all three of these marriage resources and have been immeasurably blessed by the tools we’ve learned and been intentional about putting into practice and by the relationships of mentors and friends we’ve met during the journey.

Many of the pastors and staff at Pulpit Rock have also attended a Marriage Intensive with Dr. Dillard:

“My husband and I’s first marriage counseling experience with Dr. Dillard was almost ten years ago, and we have been seeing her regularly ever since. The marriage intensive was a great start to us exploring how we could love each other better and how we could allow someone else with such great insight speak into our lives as a couple. Since our marriage intensive, we have called on Dr. Dillard for routine “check ups” throughout the years and have sought her advice for all things marriage. Dr. Dillard is honest and authentic and has become a steady voice of truth for us. I thank God for her.”  – Suzy Bates

“Pauline has been such a source of life and insight for our marriage. She listens to the Holy Spirit as much as she listens to us. And her insight is so often God given because of that! We are so thankful for her ministry to our marriage!” – Jonathan Cleveland

If you are married, I would invite you and your spouse to consider picking one of these resources and pressing in to the hard, beautiful work this fall!

Learn more about the Marriage Ministry at Pulpit Rock

Sign up for Marriage Coaching

Sign up for the Becoming One Marriage Class

Learn more and sign up for the Marriage Intensive Weekend



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